[shardformer] support ep for deepseek v3 (#6185)

* [feature] support ep for deepseek v3

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* fix test

* [shardformer] fix deepseek v3 init

* [lazy] fit lora for lazy init

* [example] support npu for deepseek v3

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colossalai/cluster/process_group_mesh.py

@@ -64,7 +64,10 @@ class ProcessGroupMesh:
             system resources.
         """
         for group in self._ranks_to_group.values():
-            dist.destroy_process_group(group)
+            try:
+                dist.destroy_process_group(group)
+            except ValueError:
+                pass
 
         # Manually clear all process groups to save memory
         gc.collect()